Manager or Leader?

Manager or Leader?

This question has always been a topic in countless managerial book. In summary, lots of manager are not seen as a leader and this cause an internal fraction among the company or organization.

Manager is someone  holding the status quo. Someone with the position given by superiors. Managers do the things right so that the company/organization do the things right. Meanwhile, Leaders might not have the position and might not have direct access to the superiors, however Leaders have influence over peer and subordinates. Leaders might not do the things right, but Leader do the Right Things.

Inevitably the presence of leader and manager can be destructive upon the work dynamic, since Mangers and Leaders tend to have different perspective. Fractions will be establish upon different grounds. Managers stick to the rules and regulations. Leaders create their own rule and spread the influence.

So would you be a Manager or a Leader? I would say you must become both!

In my country Indonesia, we have an excellent example of how these two roles are played. The Partnership between Jokowi and Ahok in Jakarta is without saying one of the best ever. Jokowi is current Governor of Jakarta (and soon to be our President) and Ahok is his deputy. The way I see this is that Jokowi appears as the leader, who stands for the people and share the aspiration, hope and vision. Jokowi do the right things by giving hope. While Ahok maintain the balance by playing the bad guy, who do the things right. Ahok do all the dirty work of scolding incompetent staff and balance the internal management. Nonetheless, they create a beautiful partnership. So the roles of leader and manager must co-exist!

Managers do the things right. Leaders do the right things.

Be Both and you are right!

Recca

@roninsleader

Rules

Rules. Wherever, whoever and whenever we are rules are something we will always stumble upon. It is there the very moment we are born. Be it the hospital, be it our own house and early when we start going to school, we always meet rules. It goes on and on and on, until we go to college and later on at work.

Some say rules are make meant to be broken, while other say the opposite. I personally agree and believe that rules are mostly old habits that people are afraid to break. Most rules are made out of circumstances and so as the circumstance differs so shall the rules.

However, it is not so secret that those who ignore the rules, those who think beyond the rules are often marked as outlaws, weirdo, disaster, wicked and whatever the ruler (whoever have power at their time, be it emperor, king, queen, president, general or whoever). That is exactly why we have a period of time well-known as the dark ages, where everything is so dark,so full of terror and so forth.

Nevertheless, we all must learn the rules! Learn, learn and learn some more so that we know them so well that the odds be in our favor.

The Ordinary follow Rules,
while the Extraordinary are usually
Followed by Rules

Recca
@roninsleader

Beauty is NOTHING without Brain

Beauty Without Brain

Today I'm just going to show you a funny video that teach us that.......
Beauty is NOTHING without Brain hehe

so Check This Video first then shall I explain what I mean ^^

Check This Out!!!

In short, that short movie was showing us about a girl (which is classified as beauty), who ordered food in a library and when the librarian tell her that it's library, she keep on ordering the food by whispering, which indirectly shows that she doesn't really know what to do in a library hahaha. Well for boys/guys don't be so happy, bcoz it's nothing really about girls and yet it for both male and females.

This short movie reminds me that Beauty is not only outside, its inside as well. I mean like an old saying say 'don't judge a book, from its cover', don't judge someone from the look, well if you does in terms of love I'll call it "crush", signs of crush at times you wanted to be with that person want to feel what's its like and stuffs like that and in the end it nothing more that "curiosity". might be

Let me give you something I learned the last few years, yet I learned so much about relationship, why because all around me I saw people suffering from it so I guess it might be interesting to learn and would be nice if say I can figure something out to help them and in fact I helped some to free their mind, even just a bit. Of course, I can't mention it, since they got my words and REAL man never goes back on his words.

Well another truth about me, ever since I broke up with my ex, I was single for about 3years now and mate I'm still ALIVE!!!

YES Mate!!! I'm freaking alive!!! "SO WHAT???" ask me that. The "SO WHAT" here is that some people just can't live a month or worse couples of weeks or even worse couples of day without girlfriend or boyfriend. WOWW Fabulous Lets give a "GO TO HELL" clap to this people. They are definitely the people I'll categorize as "People I don't get along with". I disrespect them, I disgrace them and I'm annoyed for even knowing that such "creature" exist.

I mean if you can't respect yourself, how the hell are you expecting me or other people to respect you?? You don't deserve that and please mate, don't ask for something you don't deserve coz you'll lose it anyway. Time, take a not about this, time will prove and time will reveal, who you really are. You might look handsome/pretty/sexy/hot or whatever and so what? It's just how you looked, it's like covering yourself with mask to cover you disgusting/evil/dark/bastard side. If some people suddenly want to stop reading, I guess my writing has somehow reminds them of something. Yet I challenge you to keep on reading guys, I can't promise you anything, but I might free your mind even for just a bit.

Hmm to explain this I'll simply use a word called "charm", which will leads us to another word called "charming". Charming and charm are words that are often used to describe enchantment, attractiveness, appealing, inviting and any others which trigger other's desire and seems like hypnotized everyone and yet sorry to say only few have those charm, it's something rare you can't find everyday even every year, it's just,,, too rare and too precious. However many "seems" to have such charm, ehhhh wait why did I put quotation mark on the word 'seems', well its simply because many people "only" seems to have one, which will fade in time. Well you can't really lose you touch, unless you never have one.

Let me tell you a bit about these "creatures I don't get along with", I often called them "The Pretenders". This pretenders often broke their promises, pretends that they are good, pretends that the love people and when its time they'll just leave you and look for another one. At times there are possibilities that they'll come back and begging for mercy saying every single sweet word for your forgiveness and yet they'll hurt you over and over again. How did I know that?? Coz I do know some of these "creature" and sorry to say they deserve No Mercy, No Respect, No Love, they deserve... NOTHING. I mean come on mate. You expect something you don't deserve? Well its up to you, but you'll lose it anyway. Like I said before the keyword here is "TIME" and Yes Time will prove it to you.

Furthermore I will tell you and interesting fact, which experiences told me about these creatures. These creatures I called "The Pretenders", most of them are standing upon something called "Truth behind Lies" oh yeah I interviewed some of these people, even though we're not getting along. One of them said that it simply means behind all their lies, there is a truth a truth called by most of them "Temptation". So what is this temptation about?? Its' about lying about love, It's about making people believe that we love them and leave them, when we found a better one. I can only describe this as "NONSENSE" so you just hurt others, without thinking about them and each time I asked one of them most of them leads to "That's Live" and yet I say "No That NOT Live, that JUST YOU and YOUR LIVE". I always believe that don't do things, you don't want others to do to you. Thats why I can't play with love, coz I don't want anybody to do the same thing to me.

Anyway this "Truth behind Lies" is NONSENSE. Let me tell you why there is no such thing as "Truth behind Lies". I always believe that one lie will lead to another lie, why is that so?? Because once you lied to someone, you'll have to make another lie to cover the lie you've made before and sooo you'll have to make another lie, which will later on become a "Chain of Lies", which is similar with the "Chain of Hatred" I hated. Therefore I conclude that there is no such thing as "Truth behind Lies", because behind a lie, there will be another lie and to the next lie, which is what I called never ending "Chain of Lies".

Few days ago one of my friends is somehow poisoned by this philosophy and here are a bit of our conversation.

X... says: why man marry bitches
X... says: coz man like it
Recca,, says: no
Recca,, says: why man marry bitches
Recca,, says: coz REAL man turn them into princess
And I'm sure mate you don't want to be with bitches, like woman don't want to be with bastards

Well My advice if you noticed some people like that around you, please avoid them and leave them immediately because those are the people with outer beauty, and yet nothing inside. A part of you might not be able to resist the temptation and yet that's only a part of you!!! In every single thing you do in life part of you will agree and some will not, you might hear the voices, imagine the future or even got a feeling and yet... If I may give you, say a piece of advice... Do what you have to do, or you might regret it your whole Life.

Things to remember...
-Beauty is NOTHING without Brain
-Don't judge a book, from its cover
-Don't judge someone from the look
-Time will expose everything
-You can't Really Lose Your Touch, Unless You Never have One
-People with only Outer beauty = NOTHING
-Do what you have to do, or you might regret it your whole Life.

"True Love is Like a Fairy Tale,
Countless Spoke of it...and Yet Only Few Witness It"
~Recca L S~

11 Principles of 'Recca's Style'

“Lack of Resource has hanged many person.”
Irish Proverbs

'Resource' basically means supply and yet supply is not as simple as food and money, but also anything or anyone who can be help for us. In the SuperTeen Holiday Camp 'resources' is the term used to describe a mentor, which are none other than SuperTeen Graduates that passed the test and is acknowledged as a mentor. Even though I never asked directly but I guess its because we (mentors) are meant to be resources (source and supply) for the SuperTeens.

And yet the question is... How can we become a good resource? Honestly nowadays I personally think that good is not enough. Like a saying which says 'If Better is possible good is not enough' and ironically nowadays good might not be enough, because I noticed that there are more and more people with good potential and skills.

So what should we do? Well we simply gotta be better ^^
and so I believe there are so many qualities, which is need to become one and yet I'll just tell you all 11 things, which is important to me and to make it easier to call and memorize... I'll just call it The 11 Principles of RECCA'S STYLE....

11 Principle of RECCA'S STYLE

1. Resourcefulness
As a resource of course we have to be resourcefulness lhaa, we gotta know how to get resources from different places. If we're told to do something we can't do, we have to look for another resource immediately, maybe a tool or even someone else that can help us. We might sometimes use our imagination though and yet the point is being resourcefulness.

2. Effective and Efficient
Ernest always told us about being 'effective and efficient' and I think SuperTeen (especially resources) should have known about this, or else I'll torture you all wkwkwk... So you simply have to be Effective and Efficient xp

3. Creating Influence
Alright Influence is a very important thing for a resource, because we should know that not everyone are willing to follow everything and yet even though we are selected as a resource, doesn't actually mean that we got influence. People might give us authority, but not influence. So create the Influence. This is the real basic of leadership, since authority might not give you influence, but influence might give you authority. So Influence is the basic of Leadership.

4. Champion Spirit
Spirit is like soul that would lead to our attitude and behavior. Therefore I trust Champion Spirit as one of the most important thing, since to become a Champion we don't only need to think or act like one, but also to have the spirit like one. The Spirit of 'Never Giving Up and to Keep on Pushing Ourselves Forward and Keep Moving Forward' as a Champion.

5. Always 100%
Yes as a Resource we have to give 100% and even more, even though we might be tired and exhausted, The show must go on!!! That's exactly why we needed to hold ourselves together and do what we have to do with nothing less than 100%. Actually sometimes the trainers and even some of the resources are sick and yet not many notice that because even though we are sick, we still have to be 100% and Always 100%!!!

6. Self Esteemed
Just like 'Effective and Efficient', Self Esteem is one of the most important basic though in SuperTeen and so I assume all SuperTeens (again especially resource) know about it and again review about Self Esteem, which is one of the key to become amazing resource.

7. Superior Skill
Superior Skill for me means that you have to be better in certain aspects, which aspects??Well the SuperTeens lessons is simple example. I mean of course you have to be expert, before you can teach someone. About other aspects you have to find it out yourself based on your talents and interest like I mentioned in one of my past blog 'Know Yourself'. Yet I have to remind you that nobody's perfect, so don't bother winning over others, just win over your old self ^^

8.Togetherness
Togetherness for me is more than teamwork, because teamwork might not occur without the togetherness of the team and for me we shall also be more than a team, but also a family that we care about each other as if we are brother and sisters like Ernest often said 'in the spirit of brotherhood, neighborhood, Robin Hood and the other hoods' wkwkwk

9. Youthful Charm
Having a Youthful charm is about being attractive with our young and enthusiastic side sort of being a charming person. Like Ken mentioned once, someone doesn't have to be good looking to become charming, its a matter of attitude and character. Therefore being attractive and charming here is important, because people tend to follow attractive person rather than a boring person. True or True? wkwk

10. Levelheaded
Levelheaded is a bit similar with superior, but it's in certain aspects such as being calm, wise and reasonable. A good example is that as a resource we can be 'playful' and yet 'playful' is not equal to 'playfool', they are different and as a resource that's one of our responsibility to stay aware of that, which therefore means we have to know when to be playful and when to gets serious! Knows when to lead and when to follow! That's what I called Levelheaded!

11. ExtraOrdinary
The Last but not least is Extraordinary. Extraordinary people are ordinary people that did extraordinary things and achieve extraordinary result, which means that they are people, who have made differences in their lives and others lives. For sure this is one of the key of becoming a Great Resource, since resources are meant to be a role model and so like Ernest said Resources must aspires to be Extraordinary!!!

Well actually as I mentioned before to become a great resource many qualities are necessary, but for me this 11 here are the keys that are very important on determining how good a SuperTeen Graduates become after they graduates and make differences on their own paths.
So one more time...

11 Principles of RECCA'S STYLE
1. Resourcefulness
2. Effective and Efficient
3. Creating Influence
4. Champion Spirit
5. Always 100%
6. Self Esteemed
7. Superior Skill
8. Togetherness
9. Youthful Charm
10. Levelheaded
11. ExtraOrdinary

...and so as The Wind blows...

Cya @ The Top!!!

Recca L.

@roninsleader

Know Yourself and Free Your Mind

"Don't think you are, know you are"
Morpheus - The Matrix

Do you know that there is someone that you have to believe more than your parents, friends, teachers, brother, sister, president, king or anyone else??

Well about a year ago,, I wrote my first blog about "Who I am?". I didn't actually write about who I am like my biodata of stuffs like that, but I basically write about how I see the world and what my dreams are 1 years ago. So I think since its about 1 year ago, I guess this might be the right time to review about how I see the world now.

In just one year, I've faced different challenges and experience many new and exciting things that gave me just so many lessons for my life. Something that I understand even more is nothing else than me myself and this world. Maybe its kinda hard to understand, but worry not. Last Monday, I watched one of my favorite movie "The Matrix" and I noticed that "The Matrix" is a movie that have some similar understanding with my vision of the world and we as people. So I decided to write a blog about it.

Anyway also wanted to use this opportunity to Greet them one more time. Ci Yenny's Birthday was on 28th April. Boim, Dd, Melia and me called her on a conference call at midnight wkwk. Yenny is one of the people that I can say watched me growing up and she has been like a kind big sister to me just like Ko Dickson and Ko Fred. Happy Birthday Ci Yenny!! All The BEST!! 29th was Vicky's birthday, who was my dancing partner at Felicia's sweet17 party, she's a kind and nice dancer well Happy Birthday Vicky!!!

Alright back to the topic,,,

In this fantastic movie there are some parts that really fits my philosophy and so I'll talk about some of them.

The first part is, when Neo meet Morpheus for the first time,,, it goes something like this..

Morpheus: I imagine that right now, you're feeling a bit like Alice. Hmm? Tumbling down the rabbit hole?
Neo: You could say that.
Morpheus: I see it in your eyes. You have the look of a man who accepts what he sees because he is expecting to wake up. Ironically, that's not far from the truth. Do you believe in fate, Neo?
Neo: No.
Morpheus: Why not?
Neo: Because I don't like the idea that I'm not in control of my life.
Morpheus: I know *exactly* what you mean. Let me tell you why you're here. You're here because you know something. What you know you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life, that there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but it's there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me. Do you know what I'm talking about?
Neo: The Matrix.
Morpheus: Do you want to know what it is?
Neo: Yes.
Morpheus: The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work... when you go to church... when you pay your taxes. It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth.
Neo: What truth?
Morpheus: That you are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else you were born into bondage. Into a prison that you cannot taste or see or touch. A prison for your mind.
This conversation reminds me about this world. Honestly many people are not satisfied with their life. However many just simply accepted their life and just say things about fate, without effort to change. Take a note about the some words there, Neo's answer to Morpheus question about fate is similar with my thought about fate. I believe that each one of us is in charge of our own future. Like the principle Ernest told the SuperTeens, "Action has Consequences" and so our future is the result and consequences of our action now.

Who we are now and what we have now, what determines them? Did they suddenly just happen or is there a meaning of it? I believe that everything that we have now is because what we chose to do in the past. Right or right? Example I chose not go to my friends birthday party, of course I'll miss the fun and if I went there, I probably will enjoy that party and had some fun. Still thats all our choice and we are free to make our own choice. Therefore I also believe that whatever will happen in the future is determined by what we do now and that we're simply in charge of our own life. So if you make many enemies now, don't blame anyone if you got many problems in the future, because it actually is the result of your decision in the past.

The way Morpheus describe the world is actually just the same as our real world is, I mean there are actually so many things in our life that are hidden from us just like Morpheus said about "It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth". Yes, i believe many people are tricked and is trapped in a prison, a prison of our own mind!

The prison that limits them and holds them back. From their dreams and who they really are.
Thats why many people can't see the truth, trust the wrong people, hang out with bad friends, didn't care about their life, waste their time, make enemies, etc. Thats actually because they are blind they don't know what they are supposed to do and thats why they just do the things they had in mind without thinking how it will impact them in longer terms.

Morpheus: Have you ever had a dream, Neo, that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to wake from that dream? How would you know the difference between the dream world and the real world?

Whats "real"? How do you define "real"? Is everything written in books real? Is everything your parents or teachers said real? What do you think?
I believe that many people and all the other things like TV, newspaper, books and everything might no be true. I mean look at your history book, do you think everything there are real? Or are they just some fairy tale that is written?

For me I believe that NOT everything is right. Why? Because there are always possibilities of distortion and biased in everything. So Not everything people say is really "Real" in our live, its just about how you look at it. Lets take war as an example. After a war ended, which country or army is the right one? Well in almost all cases it will be the winner, because the winner can say anything about the war and actually make up the whole story, how come? Because their enemies are simply not there anymore to say anything.

You will only see things you wanted to see. Everything that I told you might be right, but it might also be wrong. In the World War II, the German invade other European countries. Was that wrong? Maybe for some country that seems wrong and evil. However for some citizen of German nothing is wrong about it, since they believed it was their right. They wanted justice for the 1st World War, when some of their territories are taken away after their lost.

In this film, Neo and the other humans fight against agent Smith and other agents. The human wanted justice and the Agents are doing their job and their justice to stop the human. So which justice is right?? Everybody wanted justice, but everybody also have their own justice and that's what they are fighting for. In other words it means that everybody things they are right and they will fight for it. In our world its similar there are so many people saying that they are right and fight others, well for me I didn't see anything wrong with that since they are fighting for their own justice. So nobody is wrong its just about how they see the world. If you really think about this maybe you won't believe me, but like Morpheus told Neo, I didn't tell you it will be easy, but that's the truth.

Then The part and the words that I really love is ,,, "Don't Think You are, Know You are". Morpheus said this when he was sparring with Neo and that he beat Neo. This sentence was so amazing for me and it inspires me a lot. I mean everyday we'll always be thinking about something, however sometimes some things just aren't worth to think even think about. Where do we get them? Mostly from other people many people can try to tell us anything alright, but when people said/did something bad about you (or even if you just think/feel they did) and you think about it your whole day. Sorry to say mate,,, Waste of time.

Sometimes we have too much thought in our mind about anything and yet research show that we can only think about +\- 7 things (5-9) once, more than that will leads to,,,ERROR. Well thats one of the reason why I like the words "Don't Think You are, Know You are". However there is something else about it. I was a captain, when I was on the soccer team and million times I heard people saying about "You can do it!!", "Think about it" etc. Sometimes I think its nonsense, why? Because sometimes you can't actually THINK in certain situation!! Think about it not only in soccer but in daily life, sometimes we just don't have enough time to think and so what shall we do? Know it yourself!! Know Yourself!!! Do what you want to do, I mean knowing ourself means that what you are capable of don't just think about it, but know it! Notice Your Talents!!
If you don't know what you can do, what can you do?

So we simply have to Free Your Mind...
People can say anything about you, they can say lots of things they think you should do or you shouldn't do rite or rite? and yet,,, everything is up to you!! You're in charge of your own life!! Let go of the doubts in your mind, Know Yourself and Free Your Mind!!!

...and so as The Wind blows...
Cya @ The Top!!!

Recca L.

@roninsleader

The BEST Way to Kill Your Enemy

The BEST Way to Kill Your Enemy

Everybody in this world has enemies, but who are they? And how can we get rid of them?

Frankly, we should just kill them straight away so that we’ll never have to see our enemy ever again and so we should find a way to kill our enemy with nobody behind his back to avenge that person, which I’m going to tell you in a second.

Enemies, what are enemies, well enemies are basically people around us, who didn’t have a good relationship with us, people we dislikes and strangers around us who we didn’t even know. All of those might be a potential enemy or even enemy already for us. For instance an unfriendly neighbor, a tricky rival, an arrogant senior in our class/work/neighborhood, a big bully, a killer boss/teacher/lecturer, a quiet stranger in our society, an annoying person around us, a bossy mate that tried to tell us everything we should do and so many other examples.

Therefore, that there are so many people that annoyed us, what should we do to them??

Okay let’s ask ourselves, “what should I do to them?”, “How can I get rid of those people?”

Well the answer is simple,, Let’s Just Kill them!!!
Now you might be asking “ARE YOU INSANE?? I DON’T WANNA GO TO JAIL”

But what I mean by kill is not killing them by stab them with knife, slice them into pieces, mutilate them, shoot them with a shotgun, hit them with a baseball stick, throw grenade to them, drown them on a pool, hang them on a tree, crush them with a car, blow their house with a bomb, put traps and landmines to all around the place, well NO, it’s NOTHING like that.

So what do I mean??

Again I didn’t mean that my term of “killing” is something like that, but rather than those what I mean by “killing” is to kill them with another way, which is to kill them by turning our enemies into our allies.

“TURNING ENEMIES INTO ALLIES?? NO WAY MAN!!! IMPOSSIBLE” In fact that many people would do say something like that, but bear in mind that our enemies are people, who knows us most and understand us as well as our friend, how is that possible??

Let me give you an example let’s say there are 5 people around you, your friend, your arch rival, your boss/teacher, your faraway relative and a person you just met.

Now from those 5 people, who do you think knows you most?? Well I would say that your friend and your enemy is the one that knows you most, why??

Okay some bosses and teachers might be really concerned about you, but not all of them are concerned about you. Your faraway relative might be your relative, but since you’re separated by distance, can you guarantee that you know this person well and this person knows you well too? A person you just met will never knows you well unless that person is some kind of psychic or that person is distinguished agent that is ordered to stick with you for his mission, well in some rare cases you might be close with somebody just in counts of seconds, but think again it’s on RARE occasion.

Now that we’re left with only two (friend and arch rival) you should actually began to notice that this rival of yours might knows you really well, maybe even more than your friend since you’ve been competing against this person for so long. Just ask yourself this question

“What do I know about my arch rival, my enemy??”

Come on lets took a break for a while and think about it.

Okay let’s start the break, think about Your Rival.

Come on THINK about your rival and your enemy.

Okay welcome back, I assume you did the exercise, but if you haven’t please stop reading and do it!!

Now that you did the exercise, I’m sure enough that you suddenly will began to notice that you know so many things about this person which mostly probably the strength and the weakness of that person. Now that you know about his strength and weakness, SO WHAT??

Here’s the what, now that you know strength and weakness of your rival, have you ever wonder how the opposite might be? Well most probably they will know the same things too about you, your strength and weakness. Maybe they even know it better than your friends and so if somebody can tell you your strength and weakness can you work on those to make your life better?? I believe you can!!!

Now at this point that you know that your enemy/rivals can be so useful for you, can you imagine how strong and how great you could have done, if both of you join forces together??

I’m sure enough that it would be AWESOME!! DAHSYAT!!

So let’s begin to turn your enemies into allies. Still Impossible?? Let me tell you what Dr Ernest Wong, my mentor teach me about impossible. Ernest said that if you break the word “Impossible” then you will get “I’m possible”.

Impossible = I’m possible

The truth is that sometimes you enemy would also want peace, but sometimes about the ego that drives both of you apart, so let’s just throw all the egos away and start to rebuilt your relationship.

Again Dr Ernest Wong also taught me 4 magical words, which will help us, which are

· I’m Sorry
· Please Forgive Me
· I Love You
· Thank You

So Let’s Start Killing Our Enemies by turning them into allies
and you will get a very useful friend by you side as well

...and so as The Wind blows...

Cya @ The Top!!!

Recca L.

@roninsleader

Are you a good soldier?

soldier??

Would you be a soldier?

Let's save the answer for later mate, well back then few months ago or last year I think, someone said something about good and bad soldier to me and yesterday someone else did..
so it motivates me to write this down...

Well in fact that a soldier have to follow orders from their higher ranks, would you always follow them? Hmm let's think about it... if you're told to stay in one position until you are given another command, would you stay? or if you're told to go somewhere would you go?
Well the simplest question for all of them is.. "would you follow all orders given??"
f you do, then CONGRATULATION mate!!! Coz you can be considered as a good soldier (Based on that philosophy)

To be honest... I'm not a good soldier because if you asked me that question, "would you follow all orders given?" My answer will be... it depends on what the orders are, so in other words it means that I might not follow all of the orders..

Why? Yes "why" its a great question that you might be asking and that's also the question that I'll be asking if I got an order and if I the order do make sense I'll go or else I won't... Well after I learned from my Masters, like Ernest, Ken, Peter and also Ko Dickson, Ko Fredy and also my other masters. I learned that in this life we have to realize "hey there are times, when we have to be a leader and lead the team, however there will also be times, in which we have to be a follower and follow the orders" and so the question is... If a lousy person leads your team, would you follow that person?? Think about it mate, as a good soldier you might still have to do it,remember as a soldier order is everything.

...and for me, if I have to lead a team in any situation I'll do my best for my team even though we disobeyed the order and of course I'll take that responsibility myself and I would not drag any of my team member into that and again Why? In SuperTeen I was told that every Action has Consequences and I agreed. You shall NEVER run from them and you must Face them. That why I always took my responsibility, but for disobeying I still have another reasons for it..

As I said before it depends whether I'll do something or not, why? Because I simply can't let my team to do something stupid or anything hurts them. Imagine you are told to kill some people, because they made some silly mistake, well to make it even crazier you have to kill your own family, lets say your brother. Isn't that insane?? ...so in any case I'll see first whether the order make sense or not.

For My Masters order like Ernest, Ken, Peter, Ko Dickson, Ko Fredy etc, I surely trust them and if I don't understand, why I have to do something, I'll ask them later. Like in one event, Ken asked me to make it harder for the participants to pass, so that the can learn something. So I always believe that behind every order there must be something and if I don't understand I'll surely ask. So always find The Purpose even the Purpose Behind Purpose if Possible.

In the last 3 years I have been through many situations that acquire my decisions. One day in my daily life, there was a situation,where myteam made a mistake and it's their decision to made not mine, but still as good leader I protected them. Why did I protect them? Even though I wasn't there, at any case they are still my subordinates and if they are about to get punished, it will be me, who punish them myself. Sorry to say but that time, they're about to get punished, because of something riddiculus so how can I just stay and see them get punish? NO WAY I'll let that happen!!! Even though it put me to a bad situation later on, but I have to say that I have no regret for what I did that time and as I said before I take the concequence with no hard feeling..

Just to let you know, I made more mistake, when I have to do things alone, because when I'm alone I have no responsibility of others and at any circumstances it will be me, who will be blamed if I did a mistake. I made MISTAKES of cource like I wrote in one of my previous blog, but from that mistake I learn something... I always learn from my mistakes and it's ok to make mistakes, because only by making mistakes you might be able to learn something different and yet important. When you did something always notice that you can always learn from it.. Maybe you can't find it the first time, but rethink about it and you will sure find something to learn like an old saying says..“Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it”.

Back to what I asked on the beginning, "Would you be a soldier?" what do you think? Please think about it.. Well for me myself I would refuse to be a soldier, because like I said before I'm not a kind of person that will always follow everything without knowing the purpose, I'm not a doll that can be controlled all the way by someone else. Sorry to say everyone I'm NOT a ROBOT... I have heart, well I have nothing against you who wanted the opposite, I will still appreciate you, but for me I'll still do my best at any situation.. I'm a quite flexible person that would listen to others opinion and reconsider my own opinion, we always have to listen to everyone, so that we could see things from many points of view. For me personally, I would happily listen to others opinion and thoughts even though they might be different from mine. Take a note about those..

So even though I may not be a good soldier,I won't regret, besides soldier isn't the only position in military army, don't you agree? Well I once took a test of "Which kind of soldier are you?" the answer can be many.. such as Officer(normal soldier, most people get this), Engineer, Medic, Civilian etc and I got the Special Ops, which means someone that do all the unusual things, making strategy,negotiating,rebelion, double agent, spy etc. So I think we shall do the best thing that fit us... and anyway...

if you notice about my blog header, I wrote something about Ronin...

Well yes, thats also one of the reasons why I may not a good soldier...
Because I'm a Ronin.. I'm a Fighter that owns Freedom...
someone that do the BesT at every situation... until the day I die...
and that's how a Ronins Live!!!

Thanks for reading...

Some Gist:
- Every Action has Consequences, Never Run from them Face them
- Behind every Order there must be something
- Always find the Purpose even the Purpose Behind Purpose if possible
- It's ok to make Mistakes, everyone did
- Only by making Mistakes you might be able to Learn something Different and yet Important
- Every Moment is a Golden One for him who has the Vision to Recognize it
- Always Listen to Others Opinion, so that you can see things from many Points of View
- Soldier isn't the only position in Military army

Blessing in Disguise...

What I learned from my Mistake…

Let me share what I learned in this SmartKid program.

As I've said in my previous blog that this SmartKid program, let me learn a great lesson to remind myself about... hey!!! even though we wanted to do something right or at least a right intention but if the action is wrong or not at right time/place, it might caused a misunderstanding....

Well I personally will say that I'm guilty to do something wrong at the second day (11 July), but as a man who kept my promise, I Walk My Talk and I can't tell anything about my mistake, but I'll still share what I learn from it right here...


One of the principle that is so applicative on this case is the one called "Action has Consequences" and yes I did something wrong here and I deserve the punishment and scold. The truth is that I'm very upset and disappointed at myself... but I also remember one of my principle that I always remember, which is


"What doesn't Kill me,
Makes me Stronger"

and yes it makes me looks more clearly about this and let me learn such an important lesson. Indeed I figured that principle from a friend (I'm sure that the person know about it, thank you so much Xu Shi Pei) as I was on a problem too, but the difference is that this time it's my mistake, but it's still applicative.

In fact I also find a great book that really help me to reflect and kinda cheer me up, which is the "Joys & Pains of Growing Up" by Peter Lau. In his book I found many great quotes and for my case this time I found a very nice quote in Principle 2, which is...

“Every Negative Event contains within it the seed of an equal or greater Benefit” – Napoleon Hill

and also from Peter himself

“A thing may not be as bad as it seems. It may just be a blessing in disguise”

Many of people also cheer me up as they talk about this with me even Peter himself also talked to me about this... Special thanks to Peter, Ko Dickson, Ci Mega, Yonis, Lindy, Mona, Dion and also all my friends that cheer me up that day, I really appreciate all of you..

Even though it's not such an easy thing to go through, but I can overcome my own negative thoughts and go on, also with a therapy that I learned from Pak Tung and that I did to myself to let go of that feeling, which is called the "Disassociate", it's so powerful thanks to Pak Tung too. Then the next day I also played the "John Grinder Game" and even do the "Double Disassociate" to myself that I also learned from Pak Tung. Well this mistake also let me practice on how to therapy myself, I learned much from this...

Furthermore this event also let me understand more about Pak Tung's concept about "Whatever happens in our Life, it depends on us, about what Meaning we give to it and how we act to it" that the Meaning I give to this event is that I have to challenge and prove myself even more, which is similar which what Ernest said about "The Way you see yourself determines what you think you can do and that determines what you'll attempt and that determines your success or failure"
...and with all of those plus my greatest principle 'What doesn't Kill me, Makes me stronger", I can now see even more clearer about life and how to fail forward, now I really see that Failing Forward is possible like John C Maxwell said on his book( even though I haven't read that one, but I have to read it too later), it's really a rare opportunity since I haven't made such a big mistake for a long time, so this mistake is so precious and worthed for me...

Thanks for reading...

And as the Wind blows… Cya at the Top!!!